Tuesday, October 4, 2011

I would like to start with an excerpt from a book I read recently. The book is Henry David Thoreau's Walden. Walden is a thoughtful commentary sparked by the author's experience living on Walden Pond by himself for a year. Overall I highly recommend the reading. One passage, however, was a bit surprising and curious, especially if taken out of context like I have done here. It brought to mind a scripture that the Lord’s servants mentioned multiple times this General Conference. See if you can guess which scripture it was.

"Age is no better, hardly so well, qualified for an instructor as youth, for it has not profited so much as it has lost. One may almost doubt if the wisest man has learned anything of absolute value by living. Practically, the old have no very important advice to give the young, their own experience has been so partial, and their lives have been such miserable failures, for private reasons, as they must believe; and it may be that they have some faith left which belied that experience, and they are only less young than they were. I have lived some thirty years on this planet, and I have yet to hear the first syllable of valuable or even earnest advice from my seniors. They have told me nothing, and probably cannot tell me anything, to the purpose.”

While I disagree with some aspects of the point Thoreau seems to be making, the passage did bring to mind a scripture: 1 Timothy 4:12. "Let no man despise thy youth." As a result of my experience on the way to becoming a patent attorney I am perceptive of the need for people to expand our vision of the world. Blindly following the path laid by “Age” does not lead human-kind to cook their food (an example from Thoreau). At some former time, someone with youth as an instructor considered adding fuel to the fire and look where that took us. Age, only, does not lead a person to plow his field for a particular crop, nor does it lead a man to build a boat, or a factory, or an iPhone. These innovations were created by people who did not let any man despise them for their youthful and novel ideas.

Thoreau’s passage also led me to consider a bigger point that I would like to make in the second half of this essay. I have observed in my generation a renewed vigor to not only let no man despise their youth, but to actively despise others for their non-youth. And not just people, but whole philosophies are being thrown out as remnants of old traditions and old people. Many youth have forgotten the sound advice contained in this classic bit of poetry (quoted from Elder Packer’s conference address):

The old crow is getting slow;

the young crow is not.

Of what the young crow does not know,

the old crow knows a lot.

Knowing things, the old crow is still the young crow's master.

What does the slow old crow not know?

How to go faster.

The young crow flies above below and rings ‘round the slow old crow.

What does the fast young crow not know?

Where to go.

A modern fallacy holds that personal and individual observation and opinion take precedence over anything that contradicts with this observation. Especially if it comes from what an old person has to say. For example, Thoreau observes that the ox pulling the plough has vegetable-made bones. As a result, any attempt by the old farmer to tell him that he “cannot live on vegetable food solely” must be false. It is helpful to Thoreau that “science” has lent support to his argument that man does not require the eating of meat to survive. However, a man commits error when he sees an example of science “proving” old counsel obsolete and takes that to mean that all old counsel is obsolete. That man must concoct the whole of morality on his own, a task none should embark on lightly.

Yet, I have seen this sentiment many times as I have become familiar with the legal community. Many law-school friends and professors, and judges whose opinions I read, have thrown out all forms of morality not invented by “smart people” during the modern era in their jurisdiction. These lawyers fail to recognize that a lawyer’s duty to argue cases based on pre-decided law does not mean they have to determine the moral code the same way. This tendency has trickled into many other communities in this country as well and people have begun to approach morality and legality equivalently. The only immoral behavior is illegal activity. Furthermore, anything that is codified as acceptable in a statute must not really be “immoral” and anyone arguing that it is must be merely "religious," and therefore ignored.

My desire today is to share a plea to avoid this trap. Old ideas are not wrong just because they are old. Right and wrong are not subject to democracy, not subject to an individual’s internal “feelings.” When we apply the correct context, we can know when Age is a qualified instructor on a given topic. We CAN know when to accept the counsel of our elders and when to reject it in favor of new ideas. Paul’s letter to Timothy that I referenced earlier also contains the counsel to “put the brethren in remembrance of [the word of God and prayer.]” This is the correct context. If we remember the scriptures and remember prayer, we will end up being the kind of old crow that young crows should listen to.

Saturday, September 24, 2011

Spencer's Birthday

We recently celebrated my little brother Spencer's 20th birthday. I still think of him running around with his little neighborhood friends in Colorado, playing roller hockey all day or with his little chicken legs sticking out of his swimsuit while they swam all day at Centennial Pool. I can't believe he's not even a teenager anymore. He's such a wonderful part of our family and I love him so much!

Here's some great pictures Gavin took of the little celebration.


Here's our niece Olivia reading a book. Notice how it's upside-down. :)


Olivia and Kylee excitedly eyeing the cake. Birthdays are so much more fun when little kids are around.


Good cake, eh Spence? Happy 20th Birthday!

Thursday, September 22, 2011

I am going to try to contribute to this blog more often since my name is in the title as well. My first contribution is going to be a typical example of some of the interaction I have with Tiffany. Readers, you will have to let me know if this story is interesting to you.

We are pregnant. Tiffany has most of the burden but lately I have discovered that it really is "we" that are pregnant. For example: birthing class, registering for baby shower gifts, touring the hospital, practicing breathing exercises ("cleansing breath, focal point"), relaxing, playing basketball in the kinesiology building, feeling the baby kick, going to doctor's appointments, reading baby magazines, picking baby names, finding a brand-new-baby friendly apartment. These were my activities for the week, of which you will notice only one does not deal with babies/delivery of baby. So, because of all this baby activity, we see a lot of babies. Mostly in pictures or advertisements but, anyway, lots of them. Tiffany still usually points them out and says "he is cute" or "she is cute, isn't she?" Cute to Tiffany means "small" and/or "a baby" so I usually say "yes."
For the past couple of days, however, there has been more discretion to the babies Tiffany points out. She loves babies with skin that is other than white. Now when we go to BabiesRUs she points out the black baby up on the wall and says "he is sooo cute." When we are reading Healthy Baby and You! and we see the Gerber ad with the black baby she says "oooh look at that baby!" So when we were getting ready for bed last night and I was laying under Tiffany's arm I said "Tiffany, I think I am not going to be as happy as you will be if we have a black baby." I hope that does not mean I am racist.

Sunday, September 18, 2011

Getting excited for Halloween. Here's two of our nieces trying out their pumpkin fairy costumes. They are so cute!


35 weeks along and feeling great!

Saturday, September 17, 2011

More good news!

On September 15th, 2011 at 9:00 am we found out some fabulous news! Drumroll please..................................Gavin passed the Idaho Bar Exam!!! We are so excited and thank everyone for their prayers and encouragement.

Right now we are hoping to get a job with the US Patent and Trademark Office. Gavin externed there as a patent examiner last summer and really wants to go back. They are starting another round of hiring in October (soon!) and Gavin's qualified for the position plus he was an extern and they liked him so we're really hopeful that they will hire him. We're hoping that they are as motivated to hire quickly as we are to start working quickly...come on government agency! Be swift!!!

A funny little story about Gavin passing the Bar: so I was at work when he found out (they post online who passes--if your name is on the list then you passed), so I asked him to call my work and let me know (for those who don't know I'm a medical assistant and work in a doctor's office). So he calls me and tells me his name is on the list and I'm so excited. Karrie at work is walking by and I tell her the good news. She runs up to the front of the office and says "Tiffany's husband passed!" All the ladies up front are horrified at her enthusiasm until she explains, "he passed his big test, he didn't 'pass on' or pass away". Lol, you can't use that lingo in a doctor's office, everyone momentarily thought Gavin had died. Haha.

So there's our happy news. I'm so proud of Gavin for passing the Bar exam on his first try. It is such a hard test and a lot of people don't pass it the first go around, but he did and we are so happy.

Pregnancy is still going well, I'm 35 weeks along if you can believe it! I have to post some pictures soon, I look like I have a basketball under my shirt--just pokes straight out. Mostly I'm just tired, a lot of which is due to the fact that I have to go to the bathroom 3-4 times a NIGHT and I get pretty bad leg cramps about 2-3 times a lot of nights. I feel like an old man getting up so much. But that's really the worst of it so I feel extremely fortunate! Pictures hopefully to follow...

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Baby Girl Names

Alright. So I get asked at least twice a day (sometimes 10 times a day, no exaggeration) if Gavin and I have picked a name for our baby yet. The answer is no, not yet. But we have finally narrowed it down a bit. Here's what is in the running, first and middle names:

Emery Alice (Alice is my sister's middle name)

Clara Lauren (Lauren is Gavin's sisters name)

Adelaide Ann (Ann is my middle name, along with my aunt and cousin's middle name, and happened to be the middle name of 3 of my 5 first college roommates. it's a popular one)

Hazel...and we don't have a middle name for her yet. I'm holding out for Jean, which is my other sister's middle name and my grandma's, but I haven't sold Gavin on it yet.

Nothing sticks out way more than the others yet, so I think we won't make a decision until we see her. So you can still cast your vote! :)

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